In
just over 2 weeks, women (and apparently men) will be flocking to
theaters for the release of the movie version of Fifty
Shades of Grey. The
book is described as “an erotic romance novel...notable for its
explicitly erotic scenes...”. (The description continues to
describe the content of those scenes; I'm leaving out the rest
because I don't want those terms to lead to my blog in a search. In
my previous post on this topic, I used the phrase “pain,dominance,
and bondage”. We'll just leave it at that.)
Anyone
who has read my blog for long knows that porn is a hot-button issue
for me. I have said before that I consider porn...in all its stages
and variations...to be one of the greatest weapons of Satan in our
age. The 50 Shades books/movie (and others like them) disturb me for
that reason alone. These erotic fiction novels and movies are known
as “mommy porn” or “soft porn”. Whatever label they wear,
have no doubt: they are porn.
What
disturbs me most about these books and movies, though, is how many
professing Christians are reading/watching/celebrating/promoting
them. As
I said back in 2012:
What
I cannot understand is how there can be ANY controversy about this
book or this movie among those who profess to be Christians. What a
heartbreaking example of Satan's powers of deception. So
many people have no idea the "slippery slope" of porn and
how devastatingly dangerous it can become very quickly...regardless
of the gender of the one who partakes.
I had read the True Woman post referenced in the comments of the Josh
Harris post earlier this week, but hadn't read the comments. Wow. I
am absolutely floored....although I shouldn't be. This is the power
of the enemy and I
am convinced that porn...in all it's stages and variations...is one
of his strongest weapons in this age.
*Sigh* I think I've pulled my soapbox out and hopped on...I had said
that I wasn't going to blog on this, because there are already so
many good blog posts out there on this topic, but I'm afraid I feel
one coming on...because I am flooded with thoughts on this. One I
have already shared, though, is this, "
I want to be so caught up in the "more" that God created me
for that I don't have time for books or movies like these to even be
on my radar."
I
blogged about Fifty Shades and Magic Mike back in 2012, and again last year. Since that
time, I've seen more and more Christian women openly supporting these
books/movies and others like them. My thoughts and feelings haven't
changed since that time, but that original post (Fifty Shades, Magic Mike, and the More We Were Created For) needed a bit of a makeover, so I'm revamping it along with a few current thoughts.
But
first, a disclaimer.
As
I said back in 2012, for
those who don't believe the Bible is the true, inerrant, holy Word of
God...well, I'm glad to have you reading, and hope you'll stay and
read some more, and I'd love to chat with you via the comments or
email about that. However, this particular post really isn't
for you. Because until a person realizes the depth of their sin
against the holy and righteous Creator of the universe, repents of
that sin, and accepts the gift of salvation by grace through faith in
Christ Jesus...the rest really doesn't matter much. If you
haven't taken that step, I'd love to chat with you about it!
But
my focus in this post is Christians...those who claim to have been
convicted of sin, turned to God in repentance, and accepted that gift
of eternal life...those who claim the name of Christ.
Men
Should Read and Learn
I've
seen several people comment that men as well as women should read the
book, because
supposedly, through the main character (who uses pain, dominance, and
bondage in his relationships with women), men can learn how to truly
love and romance their wives.
As
more than one pastor of mine has said, there is a good Greek word for
that...HOGWASH!!
Men
are not to follow the example of the hero in an erotic novel to know
how to love their wives...they are to follow the example of Christ in
the way that He loves His bride, the Church.
Husbands,
love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up
for her, that
He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of
water with the Word, so that
He might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot
or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without
blemish. In
the same way husbands should love their wives as their own
bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For
no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just
as Christ does the church, because we
are members of His body. “Therefore
a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.” This
mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the
church. However, let
each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that
she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:25-33
The
War Within
The
Bible says that lust is sin. The Bible says that sex outside of
marriage is sin. For
those who truly are Christ-followers, the Holy Spirit lives inside of
us, and Jesus Christ has become the Lord of our lives. As
Paul says in Romans 7:20-8:9, there is a war going on inside every
true believer. In my previous post on this topic, I referenced a
Sunday School lesson I had just taught to a group of youth girls:
There
is a war between our new self and our old sin nature. But...Jesus
Christ has already won the war through His death and resurrection,
and the Holy Spirit helps us to live in that victory.
But
how do we live in that victory? The key, according to
this lesson, is our mind-set...our way of thinking, developed by what
we make the focus of our lives. As these verses say, "those
who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the
flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on
the things of the Spirit."
If
we set our minds on things of the flesh, our flesh will control us.
If we set our minds on things of the Spirit, the Spirit
controls us. If we are truly Christians, by
relationship, and not only by name, we are to have our hearts set on
the things of God, not on things of this world. The more we
feed our flesh, the less sensitive we are going to be to the
prompting and conviction of the Holy Spirit. This gives Satan
greater opportunity to deceive us...to make things that are sin look
beautiful and appealing. That is what he has been doing since
the Garden of Eden...making things that God calls evil look good.
That
deception is obvious in the discussion in Christian circles about
this book and this movie.
I
shared this story with my Sunday School girls that day: Many
years ago, when I was in college, Gilbert and Susan Baker were my
Sunday School teachers. There are many things that have stuck
with me all these years from my time in their class, but one of the
biggest was about gray areas. Gilbert quoted 1 John 1:5...God
is light, and in Him is no darkness at all. Gray,
he pointed out, is white with a bit of black added...light with a bit
of darkness. But "in Him is no darkness at all."
So...if it is gray...it is not of God. We are to "walk
in the light, as He is in the light" (1 John 1:7) And if
we back up a verse there, He says that "If we say that we have
fellowship with Him, and yet walk in darkness, we lie and do not live
by the truth."
He
Is Lord
If
He is truly our Savior, He is also our Lord. As Dr. Steven Lawson
says, “Wherever
Jesus is received as Savior, He must be recognized as Lord.” We
must realize the tremendous importance of His Lordship in our lives,
and the catastrophic results of sin when we don't allow Him that
Lordship.
“If
It's Offensive...” and What Do We Thirst After?
The
night before that 2012 post, Bro. Gary (who is now our pastor, but
wasn't then:)) preached a sermon that hit me right between the eyes.
God brings bits and pieces of it back to me from time to time, and it
never fails to convict me. Here are some thoughts from that sermon
(from John 4):
"Only
a small portion of those who 'make decisions' evidence the grace of
God in a transformed life." ~Walter
Chantry, author of Today's
Gospel, Authentic or Synthetic:
"We've
stopped telling people that their sin offends a Holy God." The
Gospel is offensive to the lost. If the Gospel doesn't step on our
toes, something is wrong.
*Anything
that is offensive to God should be offensive to us.
*People
who are saved are going to thirst after the things of God.
Based
on those truths:
1.
Sexual
immorality is offensive to God; therefore, it should be offensive to
us.
It
is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid
sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own
body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like
the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one
should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will
punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned
you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy
life. 1
Thessalonians 4:3-7
But
I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already
committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew
5:28 (That applies in the reverse as well.)
Put to death
therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality,
impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness,which is
idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming.
Colossians 3:5-6
2.
If
we are saved, we are going to thirst after the things of God.
Another
blogger posting on this subject said, "We were made for so
much more!" I
commented on her post, " I
want to be so caught up in the "more" that God created me
for (and I want the same for my children) that I don't have time for
books/movies like these to even be on my radar. " I
want to be seeking after Him with all my heart! I want to be so
full of His best for me that everything else fades into complete
obscurity.
Who Can Fathom?
The Sunday before I wrote that 2012 post, I was struck deeply by this song by by Mark Altrogge. It so perfectly declares the holiness, glory, beauty,
majesty, and righteousness of our God. How can we even
think of filling our minds with the likes of Fifty Shades or Magic
Mike in the light of His love and mercy and grace?
You
are beautiful beyond description
Too
marvelous for words
Too
wonderful for comprehension
Like
nothing ever seen or heard
Who
can grasp Your infinite wisdom?
Who
can fathom the depth of Your love?
You
are beautiful beyond description
Majesty,
enthroned above
And
I stand, I stand in awe of You
I
stand, I stand in awe of You
Holy
God, to whom all praise is due
I
stand in awe of You
You
are beautiful beyond description
Yet
God crushed You for my sin
In
agony and deep affliction
Cut
off that I might enter in
Who
can grasp such tender compassion?
Who
can fathom this mercy so free?
You
are beautiful beyond description
Lamb
of God who died for me
2015
Thoughts
None
of those thoughts have changed since 2012, but as I've written this
post, I've had a couple more.
First,
there
are many things we may see and do differently as Christian women. We
may be married or single, we may have children or not (by choice or
not by choice), we may work out of the home or be SAHMs or WAHMs, we
may homeschool or send our children off to school, we may eat all
organic or hit the drive-throughs a little too often, we may
vaccinate our children or not, use essential oils or not, be
helicopter parents or tiger moms or moms who let our children run
free. We can make different choices in those and many other areas,
and all those things are okay. They are lifestyle choices, and we
must seek God's direction in those areas for ourselves and for our
families.
Porn,
however, is never a lifestyle choice. It is never okay, in any form.
This is not a gray area. This is sin, pure and simple. As Christian women, we need to
acknowledge that and live by it.
Second, the fact that I've purposed to avoid Fifty
Shades and
other books/movies of this genre doesn't mean that I am
seeking Him with my whole heart.
I've
been convicted all over again while writing this post. Saying “no”
to “mommy porn” isn't enough. It doesn't mean that I'm seeking
Him with all my heart, it doesn't mean that I am living in His grace
from moment to moment, and it doesn't mean that my heart is pure or
that I'm running from other types of evil.
Saying
no to Fifty Shades and
the like is good, it's important, it's vital. It's a starting point, for those who've allowed that type of filth into their minds, hearts, and
lives.
But
it's not enough.
I
want more.
I
want the more He created me for.
I
want to seek Him with my whole heart.
I
want to be so full of His best for me that everything else fades into
complete obscurity.
Is that your heart? Do you want that "more"? I'd love to hear from you in the comments here or on
Facebook, or through the "contact me" box on the right. Disagree? Feel
free to share also...as long as it stays clean and friendly. I reserve
the right to delete if I feel something crosses the line. :)
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